Thinking is like being on a hamster wheel. We get on and we start to run and we run and run so much we forget we got on in the first place. One thought leads to another which leads to another and so on. So much so that we can have entire conversations with people that never actually happened. We can create scenarios that resemble a Netflix series and it’s all totally made up. The real problem lays in the fact that we live like it’s actually real. If we had the thought, then must be true and this continues thought after thought. The most common and detrimental occurrence this ever rolling mind conjures up is the role of judge and jury.
Our human minds strive and thrive on keeping us separate from everyone else. We have to make up and then focus on our differences in order to keep our “egoic” mind supreme to all others. In order to be right, we need to make others wrong. In order to be on top, we have to dominate others. In many cases we have no idea we are doing it as it is just part of the human condition. The way the human mind works is underhanded and covert but effective in keeping us in its trance. How does it do this? It has us automatically label everything and everyone. Good, bad. Right, wrong. Jerk, selfish, rude, idiot, irresponsible, uneducated, creep, weirdo, moron, looser, and the list goes on. This is not to mention the cultural, religious and social labels we use overtly. Since we have forgotten we are on the hamster wheel and all of this is made up perceptions, we even go as far as to justify it! We gather evidence, a heaping pile in fact. And then there is even the almighty agreement with others. And so it is! (Gavel drops here.) From that point on our made up perceptions become fact and it diminishes our relationships and the experience of life. From this point we relate to others as if this is who they are. From this place of judgment there can never be authentic relatedness or fulfillment, just highs and lows as we succeed or fail at attaching labels to others, judging and dominating them to feed the monster ego within.
I think the great spiritual writer Eckhart Tolle said it best:
“The quicker you are at attaching verbal or mental labels to things, people, or situations the more shallow and lifeless your reality becomes, and the more deadened you become to reality, the miracle of life that continually unfolds within and around you. In this way cleverness may be gained, but wisdom is lost, and so are joy, love, creativity, and aliveness. They are concealed in the still gap between the perception and the interpretation.”
True fulfillment comes from a detachment of the egoic mind. By getting off the hamster wheel and remembering we chose to get on it in the first place, we can observe it and not be consumed by it.
At Workforce and Lifeforce Meditations we provide the tools to stop living the made up reality of the mind and detach from it to be the observer of the thoughts you are having. As the observer you have access to mindfulness, the space in-between the thoughts. Once you are able to see how you have kept everyone separate with made up labels and judgments, you have a clearing for the understanding that we all are just sharing this human experience together, and only through the act of being in the moment, free from a mind with a hidden agenda, can we create authentic relationships that don’t diminish one to fill the other, and that provide the ultimate fulfillment of being alive.